Sunday, February 20, 2011
More of the Pathways, Part 3
Of course, I could not stay out all day – my mother, while not as strict as some mothers are, still had her limits, and when I came in after the garden chores were done, she put me right to work with the dreaded mending and sweep
ing and cooking and steeping and stewing and drying and whatever else needed doing at the time.
One thing could be said of the cooking – I did have a shameful (to me) liking for it. I had a gift for it, too, or so my mother always said, when she could drag me to do it. I suppose it was simply the thought of cooking that had me avoiding it like a sickness – having to slave away in the kitchen while my brothers were outside. But the actual doing itself – that I enjoyed very much. There is something wonderful about taking so many different things and putting them together, to make something delicious.At least, I tried to make it delicious. It was hard to make plain vegetable stew taste like anything but plain vegetable stew when all you have are a few dried herbs to season with and no fresh vegetables in the middle of winter.
Sewing, though, I could never learn to love. It was after one especially long and boring afternoon that I threw down my needle and ripped wool stockings and cried that it was boring and hard and I just quit, right there and then. My mother, picking up my discarded needlework and shoving it back into my hands, told me sternly that I could not be lazy. If I didn’t have the patience or the talent for sewing, then I would have to learn to live with it.
“How are you going to do your part in your household, when you’re grown up and don’t have a mother doing all the mending and sewing for you, Maria? Do you just expect it to get done all by itself? The needle just rise in the air and put thread through cloth?”
Being twelve at the time, and very stubborn, I refused to admit that she was right and I wrong. I just set my lip and sulked as I took up my struggle with the needle and thread once again (as stubborn as I was, I didn’t dare disobey Mother).
It seemed, as I grew older, there was more and more of this sort of talk from my mother. I didn’t realize until much later what she meant by it.
*
I’ve talked much of my family here – remembering those days, when we were so normal. Well, normal as could be, with my family’s situation. The town and its residents didn’t look on us kindly. To us, the mish-mash of buildings and smoke up on the hill always made me feel as though it were looking down on us, disapproving.
Let me tell you something of this town that we so carefully avoided. To begin with, it was very small. It was also very far away from the ‘civilized’ world – it was on a point exactly between the large, modern cities to the west, and the dangerous, unknown wilderness to the east. While it might have seemed refreshingly remote to our ancestors, it seemed to annoy the modern townspeople. News of exciting new inventions and ‘scientific progress’ came floating over Laktown. More and more of the children from the town were leaving to make their fortune in the city, leaving behind their families to brood.
My family had, for years, been left alone. Not respected, not well-liked, but alone. My mother dreaded having to go into town, to buy our ‘necessaries’ (or, as she liked to put it, to make sure that Josef still had at least one fitting pair of trousers) – being the friendly, talkative sort, it was hard for her to endure the residents’ curt treatment. They were never friendly to us. My father was used to it, having grown up with it, but it was the one thing that made my mother miss her old life – with the parties, the attention she received.
I found myself taking after her, when I followed her on some her visits. I don’t pretend to be a talker, or much for being friendly with strangers, but the looks the in-towners gave us made me nervous. It got to the point where I asked my mother to please just let me stay home, but she soon began insisting I come with her. She said it was for my own good – if I ever intended to make a life for myself, I would have to know something of the outside world. Secretly, though, I had a feeling that I was going more to comfort her than anything.